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"Where do you draw the line? Do you bring up every seemingly offhand comment that a family member..."

Fri, 29 Mar 2013 12:08:05 -0400

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Where do you draw the line? Do you bring up every seemingly offhand comment that a family member makes about a woman’s outward appearance when it starts to make you uncomfortable? Do you devote your energy to convincing your brother that you’re not exaggerating the extent of rape culture and street harassment, even though you know repeatedly having the same argument frustrates him? When do you bite your tongue in the hopes of not alienating your family members that otherwise you love and get along with, and when do you speak up, even though you know your words will inevitably lead to an argument that you will be blamed for? Do you correct your twelve-year-old stepbrother every time he makes a sexist or racist comment because he does not yet understand why it’s wrong?

I recognize that my situation is pretty good if the worst thing I have to worry about is getting into fights with my family. The worst outcome so far came when I walked out of dinner after some inappropriate and vile comments were spoken to me as I explained why specific derogatory gendered words are offensive to me. And while I was furious at the time for having to put up with that sort of behavior within my own family, in hindsight it’s something manageable. Every family situation is different, and not everyone would be safe to act the way I do in their home environment. You might be thinking of coming out, you might be coming forward about a sexual assault and fear the reaction, you might be pregnant and fear being disowned, or you might just be the radical liberal in your old-fashioned, conservative family. I cannot tell you how to approach a given situation when you’re risking more than just an argument by speaking up. Your safety is more important than anything in the world. It’s up to you to determine whether or not being vocal is worth the risk when remaining silent will keep you safe.

But there is no taking off the Social Justice hat once you put it on. There’s no on/off switch; once your eyes are opened, you cannot close them again and pretend these things are not happening.

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- Jackie Klein, I Can’t Turn Off My Feminism, And I’m Not Sorry About It on Feminspire.com (via feminspire)

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xoxofr: Kate Moss by Kate Garner

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xoxofr:

Kate Moss by Kate Garner

"The sad thing about obsessing over the past and being a hoarder of memories is that it leaves your..."

Sun, 24 Mar 2013 17:05:23 -0400

“The sad thing about obsessing over the past and being a hoarder of memories is that it leaves your present day completely abandoned. There’s no use in being a ghost haunting a bag of old memories. If you decide to fight change, you will lose. Because time has the ultimate power here. It has more power than any of us. The second you realize that, the easier and more fulfilling your life will be. When I think about the person that I was, I wish I could tell him that there is no point, that this is a battle you cannot win. But like with every valuable lesson you learn in your life, you just have to come to it on your own terms.”

- Ryan O’Connell (via endorfins)

must-have-outfits: Very pretty and great...

Mon, 18 Mar 2013 01:28:25 -0400

must-have-outfits:

Very pretty and great snapshot

pretaportre:

Street style: Paris Fashion Week fall 2013.

Just when you think things couldn’t get any worse….

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 20:31:08 -0400

Just when you think things couldn’t get any worse….

must-have-outfits: formal fun kendaatlarge: london fashion by...

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 20:29:15 -0400

must-have-outfits:

formal fun

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london fashion by paul: street muses…lfw…before roksanda ilincic, london

fashion-streetstyle: (via Vanessa Jackman: Paris Fashion Week...

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 20:06:29 -0400

fashion-streetstyle:

(via Vanessa Jackman: Paris Fashion Week SS 2013….Ruby Jean)

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blackfashion: Mathé Like my style blog “Idiosyncracie” on...

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 20:00:45 -0400

blackfashion:

Mathé

Like my style blog “Idiosyncracie” on Facebook!

just submitted my college application cross fingers mount holyoke mount holyoke :D

Sun, 03 Mar 2013 21:28:37 -0500

just submitted my college application *cross fingers* mount holyoke mount holyoke :D

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kieljamespatrick: Duck Watch

Mon, 18 Feb 2013 00:26:02 -0500

kieljamespatrick:

Duck Watch

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Sun, 17 Feb 2013 18:47:06 -0500

the-streetstyle: Anouska Proetta Brandonvia malmostreetstyle

Sun, 17 Feb 2013 02:50:38 -0500

the-streetstyle:

Anouska Proetta Brandon
via malmostreetstyle

dustjacketattic: ulyana sergeenko | collage vintage

Sun, 17 Feb 2013 02:47:36 -0500

dustjacketattic:

ulyana sergeenko | collage vintage